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tailfins
03-17-2017, 01:09 PM
Is sexual privation a form of spousal abuse? Why or why not?

Just so that some of you people don't make ignorant assumptions: My situation is opposite of what you might think. After making this clear before marrying my wife years ago, it was a fundamental before the marriage took place. Now that my age is showing, my wife started getting in my face and making demands in this area. Thankfully Viagra works. She says when the day comes that Viagra doesn't work, remember that the mouth still works when nothing else does. For her sex is a misdemeanor: Da more she misses, da meaner she gets. Dang, it's like freaking Jekyll and Hide.

That the word "no" doesn't exist works both ways.

Gunny
03-17-2017, 02:13 PM
Is sexual privation a form of spousal abuse? Why or why not?

Just so that some of you people don't make ignorant assumptions: My situation is opposite of what you might think. After making this clear before marrying my wife years ago, it was a fundamental before the marriage took place. Now that my age is showing, my wife started getting in my face and making demands in this area. Thankfully Viagra works. She says when the day comes that Viagra doesn't work, remember that the mouth still works when nothing else does. For her sex is a misdemeanor: Da more she misses, da meaner she gets. Dang, it's like freaking Jekyll and Hide.

That the word "no" doesn't exist works both ways.

Little bit TMI, Don't you think? I'm totally LMAO. Not at the subject so much as the position you put yourself in. This will be totally ignored OR you're going to take a beatdown. :laugh:Why would you start a thread like this know how people feel about your thoughts on women?:laugh: I'm not seeing the empathy oozing.:laugh: (I'm STILL laughing). "My wife that I bought and imported is being mean to me". :rofl1:

jimnyc
03-17-2017, 02:52 PM
WTF?

You win the weirdest thread of the decade with this one! The misogynist gets put in his place by his wife. Oh the irony! :)

Gunny
03-17-2017, 03:27 PM
WTF?

You win the weirdest thread of the decade with this one! The misogynist gets put in his place by his wife. Oh the irony! :)

I can't even pull this thread up without cracking up.:laugh:

Abbey
03-17-2017, 03:51 PM
http://www.debatepolicy.com/attachment.php?attachmentid=9791&stc=1

Gunny
03-17-2017, 04:11 PM
WTF?

You win the weirdest thread of the decade with this one! The misogynist gets put in his place by his wife. Oh the irony! :)

I'm STILL laughing. We need an award for this one. Let's see if I can out-dumb myself. :rofl1: The women on the board hate me. I'll play victim. :crying33

I WILL give him credit. I haven't laughed this much in a long time. If his goal was comedy, I got say ...:laugh::laugh::laugh:

I got to stay away from this thread. I bust out laughing every time I see it and my daughter comes and asks if I'm okay. :)

Elessar
03-17-2017, 04:16 PM
Elessar simply shakes his head.

Not even sure why this is not kept between two adults, or taken to a private
chat with a psychologist.

Black Diamond
03-17-2017, 04:18 PM
Elessar simply shakes his head.

Not even sure why this is not kept between to adults, or taken to a private
chat with a psychologist.
The shrink would probably laugh his ass off.

Gunny
03-17-2017, 04:42 PM
The shrink would probably laugh his ass off.

You couldn't use me, that's for sure. Even my cat thinks I've gone off the deep end every time I click on this thread. And I have a total poker face. Probably why I'm freaking out the daughter and the cat. But it's like "For real?" I sure as Hell didn't see this shit coming. :laugh: You married someone to be a sex toy and she wants sex ... Oh fucking well ... Way to go, Einstein. Got any more tricks in your magic bag, Felix? :rofl1:

aboutime
03-17-2017, 04:47 PM
tailfins. Sounds like the perfect PERSONAL problem, nobody here wants to know about, nor cares about.
You do sound like a visit to a Shrink might help, or better yet. Join the Nancy Pelosi Botox-Viagra club., and keep your own problems to yourself. TMI is still TMI.

Solve your problems on your own. I personally DO NOT CARE. And I'm almost certain. Nobody else does either.

gabosaurus
03-17-2017, 04:51 PM
WTF?

You win the weirdest thread of the decade with this one! The misogynist gets put in his place by his wife. Oh the irony! :)

I'm sorry, but... :laugh2:

https://media.giphy.com/media/g8svLCSnxfI0o/giphy.gif

Black Diamond
03-17-2017, 04:58 PM
Your body belongs to her and hers to you. Assuming you're not just seeking attention here. Quite the assumption I am making.

aboutime
03-17-2017, 05:07 PM
I couldn't remember where I had heard, or read that. So...I tried Google.


Quote by George Orwell: “She had grasped the inner meaning of the ...
http://www.shmoop.com/1984/repression-quotes-6.html
Feb 28, 2013 - What was most important was that sexual privation induced hysteria, which was desirable because it could be transformed into war fever and ...

tailfins needs mental help. (IMO)

gabosaurus
03-17-2017, 05:11 PM
If I were tailfins, I would take his wife's complaints very seriously...

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-4059812/Lorena-Bobbitt-23-years-later-Battered-wife-cut-abusive-husband-s-penis-dealing-infamy-despite-leading-quiet-life-daughter-11-longtime-partner.html

Gunny
03-17-2017, 05:31 PM
If I were tailfins, I would take his wife's complaints very seriously...

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-4059812/Lorena-Bobbitt-23-years-later-Battered-wife-cut-abusive-husband-s-penis-dealing-infamy-despite-leading-quiet-life-daughter-11-longtime-partner.html
Good thing you posted yet another link I'm not going to read because you can's speak for yourself. I take none of this sh*t seriously. The pussy I sleep with walks on 4 legs and wants her dinner.

My wife made demands and I told her to go f*ck herself and she did. Her kids put her in an old folks home. Want to be stupid? You can do everything stupid and wrong without me.

Black Diamond
03-17-2017, 06:23 PM
What's the matter, tailfins? Afraid of a little light brown sugar? :laugh:

jimnyc
03-17-2017, 07:01 PM
Imagine waking up out of a deep sleep because your significant other just lopped your hot dog off? Wow. :laugh:

Black Diamond
03-17-2017, 07:02 PM
Imagine waking up out of a deep sleep because your significant other just lopped your hot dog off? Wow. :laugh:
I can't believe Lorena Bobbitt didn't get her throat cut.

Black Diamond
03-17-2017, 07:07 PM
I can't believe Lorena Bobbitt didn't get her throat cut.
I knew a lot of reasonable women who agreed with what she did.

Elessar
03-17-2017, 07:48 PM
Really bizarre thread. As was stated before, TMI...

Best let this one sink....and Tailfins...find some mental help.

tailfins
03-17-2017, 08:05 PM
Your body belongs to her and hers to you. Assuming you're not just seeking attention here. Quite the assumption I am making.

It's just curiosity about "how the other half lives", with you all being "the other half". It's actually a pretty low risk way to go about it. I can close the browser any moment that I care to. Actually, I get a nice hot meal with a smile any time I want one. The house is kept neat as a pin. My sons get shuttled anywhere they need to. I will gladly keep my part of the deal. I hear many men married to American women complain about their wife being "unavailable". Someone having that problem just doesn't "compute". You all belong to a demographic that gave me no joy during the first 25 years of my life. I even cut off the rest of my family when my mom died.

Black Diamond
03-17-2017, 08:11 PM
It's just curiosity about "how the other half lives", with you all being "the other half". It's actually a pretty low risk way to go about it. I can close the browser any moment that I care to. Actually, I get a nice hot meal with a smile any time I want one. The house is kept neat as a pin. My sons get shuttled anywhere they need to. I will gladly keep my part of the deal. I hear many men married to American women complain about their wife being "unavailable". Someone having that problem just doesn't "compute". You all belong to a demographic that gave me no joy during the first 25 years of my life. I even cut off the rest of my family when my mom died.
It is good you're willing to hold up your end of the deal. In all areas of marriage.

Elessar
03-17-2017, 08:19 PM
It is good you're willing to hold up your end of the deal. In all areas of marriage.

My ex did no such thing. It is one reason why I to do not talk about it much.
But I did catch her with 3 'boyfriends', while all the time our son was at home.

Gunny
03-17-2017, 09:00 PM
It's just curiosity about "how the other half lives", with you all being "the other half". It's actually a pretty low risk way to go about it. I can close the browser any moment that I care to. Actually, I get a nice hot meal with a smile any time I want one. The house is kept neat as a pin. My sons get shuttled anywhere they need to. I will gladly keep my part of the deal. I hear many men married to American women complain about their wife being "unavailable". Someone having that problem just doesn't "compute". You all belong to a demographic that gave me no joy during the first 25 years of my life. I even cut off the rest of my family when my mom died.

Oh no ... you got ME wrong. I'm LMAO at you. Trying to figure out girls. THAT's gonna work.

gabosaurus
03-17-2017, 11:10 PM
Actually, I get a nice hot meal with a smile any time I want one. The house is kept neat as a pin. My sons get shuttled anywhere they need to. I will gladly keep my part of the deal.

You don't have a wife. You have an indentured servant. This is why you didn't marry an American woman. We don't put up with that crap.
Your time could be coming, though. Don't push your luck. You could come home from work one day and find your bank account empty and your wife and kids on a flight to Brazil.

Abbey
03-17-2017, 11:29 PM
So grateful I have a normal loving relationship, with no need to make "deals" before or during the marriage.

Black Diamond
03-17-2017, 11:32 PM
My ex did no such thing. It is one reason why I to do not talk about it much.
But I did catch her with 3 'boyfriends', while all the time our son was at home.
Yikes. I am sorry, elessar.

Abbey
03-17-2017, 11:35 PM
My ex did no such thing. It is one reason why I to do not talk about it much.
But I did catch her with 3 'boyfriends', while all the time our son was at home.

Sometimes people truly suck. :(

Russ
03-17-2017, 11:42 PM
Follow-up Poll:

Now that Tailfins has the most embarrassing thread of the decade, here's a poll on what his best course of action should be to pretend that he never created this thread in the first place:

A) Claim that his account has hacked, and some Russian hacker created the thread

B) Put everyone on the board on "Ignore" status, and then imagine that the responses are full of positive feedback

C) Confess that he's afraid of his wife, and that she's the meanest ever

D) Stay the course with the "I only login to this board to look down upon everyone" statements

Black Diamond
03-17-2017, 11:44 PM
Follow-up Poll:

Now that Tailfins has the most embarrassing thread of the decade, here's a poll on what his best course of action should be to pretend that he never created this thread in the first place?

A) Claim that his account has been hacked, and some Russian hacker created the thread

B) Put everyone on the board on "Ignore" status, and then imagine that the responses are full of positive feedback

C) Confess that he's afraid of his wife, and that she's the meanest ever

D) Stay the course with the "I only login to this board to look down upon everyone" statementsoliver stone chooses option A. :cool:

Tyr-Ziu Saxnot
03-18-2017, 12:59 AM
Follow-up Poll:

Now that Tailfins has the most embarrassing thread of the decade, here's a poll on what his best course of action should be to pretend that he never created this thread in the first place:

A) Claim that his account has hacked, and some Russian hacker created the thread

B) Put everyone on the board on "Ignore" status, and then imagine that the responses are full of positive feedback

C) Confess that he's afraid of his wife, and that she's the meanest ever

D) Stay the course with the "I only login to this board to look down upon everyone" statements

Or he could stop being an arrogant prick and treating her like a dog--then maybe she would stop making fun of his limp weasel..
Safe money, goes with him never thinking to treat her as an equal and thus avoid her belittling his male ego and lord of the jungle fantasies. -Tyr

Jeff
03-18-2017, 02:02 AM
Well that's a first, a man admitting he can't perform no more , LMFAO :laugh2:

Dot feel bad though Tf I would of bet that was the case anyway, I mean hell a man that has to act like woman are so beneath him only does so cause the truth is he has no say so at home, poor woman. :laugh:

Gunny
03-18-2017, 06:27 AM
You don't have a wife. You have an indentured servant. This is why you didn't marry an American woman. We don't put up with that crap.
Your time could be coming, though. Don't push your luck. You could come home from work one day and find your bank account empty and your wife and kids on a flight to Brazil.

Little slow on the uptake, Gabby? I'm pretty sure his time HAS come. Got himself a sex toy and 'Lil Willy' don't work. This is comedy gold for me. Not to mention the justice. It's tomorrow and I'm STILL cracking up every time I see it.:laugh:

Tyr-Ziu Saxnot
03-18-2017, 10:58 AM
Little slow on the uptake, Gabby? I'm pretty sure his time HAS come. Got himself a sex toy and 'Lil Willy' don't work. This is comedy gold for me. Not to mention the justice. It's tomorrow and I'm STILL cracking up every time I see it.:laugh:

Would be hard to find a more deserving black soul to laugh at and ridicule, methinks..
When the worm turns, it in his case, affected his useless little worm and momma ain't too happy about that ..;)

No pity for da fool, but loads of pity from me go out to his poor wife for being in prison with him.. -Tyr

Gunny
03-18-2017, 11:25 AM
Would be hard to find a more deserving black soul to laugh at and ridicule, methinks..
When the worm turns, it in his case, affected his useless little worm and momma ain't too happy about that ..;)

No pity for da fool, but loads of pity from me go out to his poor wife for being in prison with him.. -Tyr
Like I said ... it's situational to me. Come on here and degrade women for years; then, a thread about the reversal of positions. And I know he's taking this personally (well because it IS personal but I didn't ask :laugh: ) but whatever. It's not personal. I laugh at myself and some of the dumb sh*t I do so I'm damned sure am going to laugh at you. :laugh:

I'm getting WAY too much entertainment out of this.:laugh::laugh::laugh:

aboutime
03-18-2017, 06:39 PM
tailfins! Did anyone ever tell you. You can't make children while being Sexually 'DE prived' rubbing Noses with Alaskan women????:laugh:

aboutime
03-18-2017, 06:42 PM
Little slow on the uptake, Gabby? I'm pretty sure his time HAS come. Got himself a sex toy and 'Lil Willy' don't work. This is comedy gold for me. Not to mention the justice. It's tomorrow and I'm STILL cracking up every time I see it.:laugh:


Gunny. Obviously. Tailfins only has One Toy...called "Little Willy Won't Work!" I LOVE DAT ONE!:clap:

Black Diamond
03-18-2017, 11:22 PM
I knew a lot of reasonable women who agreed with what she did.
I sure as hell didn't think it was reasonable though. Holy crow.

tailfins
03-19-2017, 08:02 PM
You don't have a wife. You have an indentured servant. This is why you didn't marry an American woman. We don't put up with that crap.
Your time could be coming, though. Don't push your luck. You could come home from work one day and find your bank account empty and your wife and kids on a flight to Brazil.

You have been wishing that for quite awhile. You only have two years left to keep praying for it when the kids are no longer minors. My wife's family has a solid sense of "a deal is a deal". Her aunt is quite a character. Her aunt moved to the French Guiana side of the border at age 16 and started marrying retired scientists from the missile base. Her aunt is now in her 60s and owns all kinds of property in France. She made sure that each husband had happy final years and a good funeral. Her aunt never divorced even once and took care of each husband until the very end. One of my cousins by marriage is a tour guide there. She explained the missile base during pauses to me in Portuguese because she is required to conduct the tour in French.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Guiana_Space_Centre

tailfins
03-19-2017, 08:47 PM
Well that's a first, a man admitting he can't perform no more , LMFAO :laugh2:

Dot feel bad though Tf I would of bet that was the case anyway, I mean hell a man that has to act like woman are so beneath him only does so cause the truth is he has no say so at home, poor woman. :laugh:

That may have something to do with the part of my brain that processes embarrassment is severely impaired. Furthermore, doing your best doesn't constitute treating someone like crap. That is unless you want to take the ridiculous assertion that most of us on the Autistic spectrum don't deserve to have a relationship. I have met people at Autism support groups that let society lead them around by the nose. They wind up alone, unemployed and on government assistance. I decided to not let that happen and get what I need out of life by any means necessary. Lots of people resent that for some reason. I'm mildly, but only mildly curious as to why.

In real life (not online), I have the right by not to be discriminated against and I use the powers that be to enforce my right not to be discriminated against out in public or in the workplace. You made several references that you would like to cross my path in a public place. If that were to occur at a Walmart for example, you would be criminally charged with simple assault or felony aggravated assault depending on how far you let it go. Punches hurt for awhile, a criminal record lasts longer.

gabosaurus
03-19-2017, 09:39 PM
Tailfins, you are exceptionally brave for returning to this thread. :cool:

I know quite a few people with autism and Aspergers. I don't think any of them ended up alone, unemployed or on government assistance. They make their own life and don't resort to buying spouses off the internet.
To charge someone with simple assault, you have to prove that you were in fear of being assaulted . There are conditions that have to be met. According to the law: "If the victim does not perceive the threat of imminent battery as real or directed towards them, then the threat has not created apprehension."
If someone came up to you in Wal-Mart and said "Hey idiot, I hear your dick doesn't work and your old lady is pissed about it," that is not simple assault.
To qualify as aggravated assault, someone would have to physically attack you. Someone ridiculing you for non-performance is not even close.

tailfins
03-19-2017, 10:09 PM
Tailfins, you are exceptionally brave for returning to this thread. :cool:

I know quite a few people with autism and Aspergers. I don't think any of them ended up alone, unemployed or on government assistance. They make their own life and don't resort to buying spouses off the internet.
To charge someone with simple assault, you have to prove that you were in fear of being assaulted . There are conditions that have to be met. According to the law: "If the victim does not perceive the threat of imminent battery as real or directed towards them, then the threat has not created apprehension."
If someone came up to you in Wal-Mart and said "Hey idiot, I hear your dick doesn't work and your old lady is pissed about it," that is not simple assault.
To qualify as aggravated assault, someone would have to physically attack you. Someone ridiculing you for non-performance is not even close.

Correct. If you want to put the pieces of the puzzle together, read Jeff's other posts.

tailfins
03-19-2017, 10:10 PM
What's the matter, @tailfins (http://www.debatepolicy.com/member.php?u=2229)? Afraid of a little light brown sugar? :laugh:

Brown sugar is great with a little blue pill!

gabosaurus
03-19-2017, 11:36 PM
Correct. If you want to put the pieces of the puzzle together, read Jeff's other posts.

Making fun of someone does not qualify as "imminent threat of battery." Ridiculing your wife or children does not qualify as "imminent threat of battery." If Jeff followed you to the can and laughed at your misfortunes, that would also not qualify.
Sorry tailfins, your case doesn't have a (third) leg to stand on. :rolleyes:

tailfins
03-19-2017, 11:56 PM
Making fun of someone does not qualify as "imminent threat of battery." Ridiculing your wife or children does not qualify as "imminent threat of battery." If Jeff followed you to the can and laughed at your misfortunes, that would also not qualify.
Sorry tailfins, your case doesn't have a (third) leg to stand on. :rolleyes:

Saying he "wants to beat me like a rabid dog" does, however. Don't be lazy, look it up.

Gunny
03-20-2017, 09:23 AM
That may have something to do with the part of my brain that processes embarrassment is severely impaired. Furthermore, doing your best doesn't constitute treating someone like crap. That is unless you want to take the ridiculous assertion that most of us on the Autistic spectrum don't deserve to have a relationship. I have met people at Autism support groups that let society lead them around by the nose. They wind up alone, unemployed and on government assistance. I decided to not let that happen and get what I need out of life by any means necessary. Lots of people resent that for some reason. I'm mildly, but only mildly curious as to why.

In real life (not online), I have the right by not to be discriminated against and I use the powers that be to enforce my right not to be discriminated against out in public or in the workplace. You made several references that you would like to cross my path in a public place. If that were to occur at a Walmart for example, you would be criminally charged with simple assault or felony aggravated assault depending on how far you let it go. Punches hurt for awhile, a criminal record lasts longer.Wow. Just when I thought this thread couldn't get dumber.:laugh:

First off. assault is a misdemeanor. Nobody cares. Second uuuhhh ... this is the internet? It's okay for you to come on here and talk all kinds of crap without fear of reprisal; yet, when someone else does you want to bust out your version of the law? Kinda hypocritical. don't you think?

So, do you wear a sign that says "I Am Autistic (but only mildly)"? Should have figured you were in the playing victim crowd. Just from this thread alone.:laugh: You are SERIOUSLY keeping ME entertained. :laugh:

I can see it now: Jeff giving enough sh*t about you to actually find you and kick your a$$:laugh:

Jeff
03-23-2017, 12:23 AM
That may have something to do with the part of my brain that processes embarrassment is severely impaired. Furthermore, doing your best doesn't constitute treating someone like crap. That is unless you want to take the ridiculous assertion that most of us on the Autistic spectrum don't deserve to have a relationship. I have met people at Autism support groups that let society lead them around by the nose. They wind up alone, unemployed and on government assistance. I decided to not let that happen and get what I need out of life by any means necessary. Lots of people resent that for some reason. I'm mildly, but only mildly curious as to why.

In real life (not online), I have the right by not to be discriminated against and I use the powers that be to enforce my right not to be discriminated against out in public or in the workplace. You made several references that you would like to cross my path in a public place. If that were to occur at a Walmart for example, you would be criminally charged with simple assault or felony aggravated assault depending on how far you let it go. Punches hurt for awhile, a criminal record lasts longer.


Lmao. :laugh2::laugh2:

First tf having any disorder doesn't give you a free pass to act like a ass, you are a somewhat smart guy so learn to go past your disabilities and act right.

But as far as meeting in public, naaa buddy I would just like to have a cup of coffee with ya and shoot the sheot a bit, of course that is until you explained to me how I was one of your experiments, but let's make no mistake, I wouldn't be in any trouble cause for starters who would call the cops, look around man no one likes that shit and you wouldn't be calling the cops cause you would be laying on your back dreaming about being that dominant male you believe you are.

But look I like ya, so hell now that Lil winky won't work go to one of those adult stores and buy your wife a LIL winky, they come with a special belt ( think they strap on) and then go home get on all 4's and shoot out all the orders ya want, something tells me your wife will follow all your orders and do her best to work real hard to oblige you. :laugh2:

Gunny
03-23-2017, 06:20 AM
Lmao. :laugh2::laugh2:

First tf having any disorder doesn't give you a free pass to act like a ass, you are a somewhat smart guy so learn to go past your disabilities and act right.

But as far as meeting in public, naaa buddy I would just like to have a cup of coffee with ya and shoot the sheot a bit, of course that is until you explained to me how I was one of your experiments, but let's make no mistake, I wouldn't be in any trouble cause for starters who would call the cops, look around man no one likes that shit and you wouldn't be calling the cops cause you would be laying on your back dreaming about being that dominant male you believe you are.

But look I like ya, so hell now that Lil winky won't work go to one of those adult stores and buy your wife a LIL winky, they come with a special belt ( think they strap on) and then go home get on all 4's and shoot out all the orders ya want, something tells me your wife will follow all your orders and do her best to work real hard to oblige you. :laugh2:

I'm thinking breakfast at Waffle House. I wish we had one here. They'd get rich off me alone. And I'd even buy what's his name a soda pop. If you actually want to put up the effort to let one of your kids kick his ass, I ll hold your hoody.

If he f-s up MY breakfast at Waffle House it ain't your kids he's going to have to worry about. Screwing up breakfast at Waffle House comes with a death sentence. :laugh: