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    Default It's always fun to be sued

    When I was a grad student at Cal, I worked on a case where a 10-year-old girl was being abused by her stepfather. Her mother didn't believe her, so the girl confided in a neighbor, who called police. The stepfather was eventually sent to jail.
    A lawyer retained by the mother got him out of jail. Now he is suing everyone involved for "damaging his character." Including me.
    Never been sued before. I am sure a good time will be had by all.

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    Hey, let's all hear it for alternative lifestyles and free love...and the skewed concept that if we just make ourselves happy, our children will be happy too...and the traditional family is old news and should be scrapped.

    I'll bet the girls real dad didn't rape her.

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    WTF does that have to do with anything?

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    I thought it was pretty clear.

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    You were spouting shit about "alternative lifestyles" and "free love" and the "traditional family". WTF does that have to do with some guy abusing his stepfather?
    Unless you are saying that remarriage leads to child abuse. Which is a totally fucked up idea.

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    Quote Originally Posted by gabosaurus View Post
    You were spouting shit about "alternative lifestyles" and "free love" and the "traditional family". WTF does that have to do with some guy abusing his stepfather?
    Unless you are saying that remarriage leads to child abuse. Which is a totally fucked up idea.
    I think you mean a stepfather abusing his stepdaughter? About 8 times more likely than biological father:

    http://74.125.95.104/search?q=cache:...ient=firefox-a

    With the increase in the divorce rates, more children are at greater risk than ever. Women, in their attempts to find a mate, may unwittingly be putting their children at greater risk for sexual abuse from the men they date. If the mother remarries, according to a survey done by Russell, the "stepdaughters are over eight times more at risk of sexual abuse by the stepfathers who reared them than are daughters reared by their biological fathers." (Russell, 1986, p. 103) "As some researchers have begun to suspect, it may be the case that a growing number of stepfathers are really 'smart pedophiles', men who marry divorced or single women with families as a way of getting close to children." (Crewdson, 1988, p. 31)


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    Quote Originally Posted by AllieBaba View Post
    I'll bet the girls real dad didn't rape her.
    He probably raped her brother.

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    Quote Originally Posted by gabosaurus View Post
    You were spouting shit about "alternative lifestyles" and "free love" and the "traditional family". WTF does that have to do with some guy abusing his stepfather?
    Unless you are saying that remarriage leads to child abuse. Which is a totally fucked up idea.
    Work in detention for a while, and see how many kids come through who have been brutalized by step fathers and boyfriends of their mothers. Then talk to me, dumbass.

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    Quote Originally Posted by AllieBaba View Post
    Work in detention for a while, and see how many kids come through who have been brutalized by step fathers and boyfriends of their mothers. Then talk to me, dumbass.
    How long did you work in 'detention'? Or do you still? Serious question.

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    Quote Originally Posted by gabosaurus View Post
    When I was a grad student at Cal, I worked on a case where a 10-year-old girl was being abused by her stepfather. Her mother didn't believe her, so the girl confided in a neighbor, who called police. The stepfather was eventually sent to jail.
    A lawyer retained by the mother got him out of jail. Now he is suing everyone involved for "damaging his character." Including me.
    Never been sued before. I am sure a good time will be had by all.
    I would think that YOU would have a certain degree of immunity due to being a student at the time so any liability should either fall upon your overseeing counselor, or the school. I would check into that if I were you. Students generally have a buffer against legal action unless you purposefully do something.
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    Two years in detention. Also did tracking of conditional release kids. A little less than a year in residential "family" treatment facility, which is almost the same thing, I swear. Same people, anyway. But all the kids in treatment were under 12, at leat the boys were.

    Juvie had boys up to, oh, I don't remember. 20? Some who were still in the system as juveniles, but weren't technically juveniles anymore.

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    Quote Originally Posted by AllieBaba View Post
    Two years in detention. Also did tracking of conditional release kids. A little less than a year in residential "family" treatment facility, which is almost the same thing, I swear. Same people, anyway. But all the kids in treatment were under 12, at leat the boys were.

    Juvie had boys up to, oh, I don't remember. 20? Some who were still in the system as juveniles, but weren't technically juveniles anymore.
    Eegads. I couldn't handle that, for a multitude of reasons. I thought I did at one point but opted against it in light of the employment opportunities at the time. I did work with special needs childrenand high risk families for many years (lots of learning delays from FAS, prenatal drug use, serious behavior problems from neglect, physical/sexual abuse - still makes me sick). Burnt me right out. Totally.

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    Ahhhh pay back. This is another example of consequences. See I am familiar with these types of law suits and what can be expected. But, I have glabby on ignore, and I won't share any of my knowledge with her.

    Glad I looked at this thread, made my evening.
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    Sorry, Gabby. That has to be a royal pain to deal with.
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    I have worked in juvenile detention. And I have seen a lot of kids molested by parents and stepparents. But you are making a generalization that only stepparents abuse kids. It is more likely, but not a guarantee.
    But let's pose the question to the DP guys. If you are remarried and have stepchildren, how many of them have you molested? Do you blame free love and alternative lifestyle for your transgressions?

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