I was recently told after turning down cake (by a man...possibly good intentioned...I give the benefit of the doubt on that one). "You are at that age...where you shouldn't care about stuff like...diets"...."Who are you trying to impress...just eat it".
That is now my motto...who gives a crap..."just eat it".. so pass the pie.
When me and Gaffer were an item he never called me fat, He is one of those rare men who liked me fat or thin, but I do think he likes redheads better then blondes
Anyway I think as I get older the reason for wanting to be thin is really just health reasons, I mean I quit smoking cigs because I kept coughing all the time and it was getting expensive and Im getting old, so when I quit I atealot. Now I just want to be at a normal weight and just feel physically healthy.
My 2nd ex husband did tell me I was fat after I had our first baby, he made me feel horrible about myself, he also wanted me to wear make up constantly and now I hate my freckles and always feel self-conscious of them.
I guess there are just men like that. My Ex was the same...hated the way I looked,talked,dressed,my body. Pretty much everything...and he let me know that the whole time we were married too (except maybe the pre children years). Make up,sexy clothes and manicures were a big deal to him...only he didn't want to pay for that stuff. And if you spent too much money on "frivoulous" things LOOK OUT. Pretty much why I am single now...I needed some peace of mind.
I like working out...not so much to get skinny. Just cuz it makes me feel better. I don't do it often enough though...I need to work on that more.
Yep it feels better mentally to workout.
If I ever settle down again I want him to like me for me, my sense of humor and qualities that we both value and share mutually, I can feel attracted to someone for who they are even more then how they look.
I know its not the same for men but for me a good sense of humor and a compassionate nature is very sexy.