Common sense, or a rule?

[jimnyc]

Seems you've already decided and hence no reason to debate it even. And of course it's your board and therefor you're "right" to do. No debate about that.

But, by the same token, we all can acknowledge that if you were in a bar and busted out a pic of your wife and said "look how fucking hot she is" some joker would disagree just to be disagreeing. Is that flaming of the same degree as calling someone's wife a racial slur, or calling her a whore or similar? Of course it is not.

Which is exactly why I voted that yes, you should have a rule that states EXPLICITLY what is and what is NOT allowed. Simply saying hey be mature enough to do what's right is asking for trouble.

I never once said this was a debate. I'm simply looking for feedback.

[OCA]

I was complimentary to you both.

But I do have a question was that picture really you and your wife?

Will the spreader of the rumour please stand up!

Gotcha, knew you would reveal yourself sooner or later.

[ConHog]

I never once said this was a debate. I'm simply looking for feedback.

My bad, I meant to say discuss. Of course this isn't a debate. THis is dictatorship, and you're the head Dick.

Just teasing , don't ban me bro!

[logroller]

Personally, if a member is kind enough to share a family photo with us, and no matter how much bragging they may do, I think it's flaming and unacceptable. It's also a sure way to prevent anyone else from posting pictures, knowing that it then allows other members to say inappropriate things about them. It's not always about whether or not it's a rule, whether its flaming or not - but rather that its just the wrong thing to do. If not everyone agrees with that, then it's time to make a rule "forcing" everyone to agree.

Is this really a problem Jim, has someone used information gathered from a picture thread and used it in a derogatory fashion? or is this a hypothetical? Because if this really happened, you have the power as board owner to apply whatever corrective measures without any rule change IMO. If they don't like it, or understand why that's unacceptable without some written standard or rule, then they best move on elsewhere and good riddance!

[ConHog]

Will the spreader of the rumour please stand up!

Gotcha, knew you would reveal yourself sooner or later.

Irrelevant to THIS thread, but Chloe doesn't spread rumors PERIOD.

[OCA]

Is this really a problem Jim, has someone used information gathered from a picture thread and used it in a derogatory fashion? or is this a hypothetical? Because if this really happened, you have the power as board owner to apply whatever corrective measures without any rule change IMO. If they don't like it, or understand why that's unacceptable without some written standard or rule, then they best move on elsewhere and good riddance!

Log..................it is not a hypothetical........nuff said.

[OCA]

Irrelevant to THIS thread, but Chloe doesn't spread rumors PERIOD.

Ohhhhh man would I love to go somewhere with this but i'm not going to!

[ConHog]

Is this really a problem Jim, has someone used information gathered from a picture thread and used it in a derogatory fashion? or is this a hypothetical? Because if this really happened, you have the power as board owner to apply whatever corrective measures without any rule change IMO. If they don't like it, or understand why that's unacceptable without some written standard or rule, then they best move on elsewhere and good riddance!

That is of course true, Jim could ban someone for any or no reason, it's his board, that just stands to reason. But , and I may be wrong here, I think we all know that just running around kicking people off your board at any excuse is not a good way to maintain membership. And I think we all can say that Jim is more than fair in handling out bans, at least from what I have seen.

[logroller]

My bad, I meant to say discuss. Of course this isn't a debate. THis is dictatorship, and you're the head Dick.

Just teasing , don't ban me bro!

Not a debate, more of an amicus curiae

[jimnyc]

Is this really a problem Jim, has someone used information gathered from a picture thread and used it in a derogatory fashion? or is this a hypothetical? Because if this really happened, you have the power as board owner to apply whatever corrective measures without any rule change IMO. If they don't like it, or understand why that's unacceptable without some written standard or rule, then they best move on elsewhere and good riddance!

Unfortunately, it's happened. And yes, I was told there was no rule covering such an issue. And yes, others have done worse. All the things I have seen that lead to this were equally wrong, but I thought it went without saying, and without a rule, that it was "wrong" and should be off limits. Some look at the rules as guidelines, others look at it as whatever is NOT there is fair game. But I'd rather not have a rules page turn into a rules thread where I have to dictate and micro-manage every last detail. I thought some things were "common sense".

[chloe]

Not sure where that matters.

Is it wrong to ask the question?

[OCA]

Is it wrong to ask the question?

Chloe honey, its better that you not throw rocks when you live in a glass house.

Capece?

[chloe]

Ohhhhh man would I love to go somewhere with this but i'm not going to!

It doesn't matter to me either way OCA, I thought your wife was very very pretty I said so repeatedly in that thread and I also said you were handsome and look really good for your age.

I use pretty women avatars all the time and people have asked me at this board if its me and I always have said its not because Im a fat slob and dont like myself and prefer pretty women avatars.

[chloe]

Chloe honey, its better that you not throw rocks when you live in a glass house.

Capece?

How is asking you if that picture is really you and your wife throwing rocks?

[logroller]

Seems you've already decided and hence no reason to debate it even. And of course it's your board and therefor you're "right" to do. No debate about that.

But, by the same token, we all can acknowledge that if you were in a bar and busted out a pic of your wife and said "look how fucking hot she is" some joker would disagree just to be disagreeing. Is that flaming of the same degree as calling someone's wife a racial slur, or calling her a whore or similar? Of course it is not.

Which is exactly why I voted that yes, you should have a rule that states EXPLICITLY what is and what is NOT allowed. Simply saying hey be mature enough to do what's right is asking for trouble.

Does that bar owner need a rule posted that specifically states, no calling people's wife/GF a whore or racial slur? You could attempt to reason with them, if they fail to understand-- kick em out.

How bout this rule JIM; I reserve the right to refuse membership for any reason....to quote OCA, 'nuff said'.