You're off topic. Go discuss hate crime on the other forum.Originally Posted by Kathianne
Exile
You're off topic. Go discuss hate crime on the other forum.
Super Minion
Now THAT would be for the other board members to decide, not you nor I.
"The government is a child that has found their parents credit card, and spends knowing that they never have to reconcile the bill with their own money"-Shannon Churchill
Exile
Honestly, why are you talking to me at all? You don't like me and you have no respect for my views.
Ignored by the alt-right
He "needed" your dog not to crap there. Seems pretty simple.
"when socialism fails, blame capitalism and demand more socialism." - A friend
"You know the difference between libs and right-wingers? Libs STFU when evidence refutes their false beliefs." - Another friend
“Don't waste your time with explanations: people only hear what they want to hear.” - Paulo Coelho
Exile
No, that wasn't it at all. The rageaholic wasn't the landowner. I've lived across the street from the landowner for five years and she's never objected to any of us neighbors curbing our dogs in the periphery of our properties.
If she had objected, I would have picked up the poop.
This is way out in the country and NOBODY picks up poop. There are wild animals pooping everywhere, for one thing. The actual property owner walks her dog off leash and her dog poops whereever it chooses.
Ignored by the alt-right
Doesn't matter. It may have been irrational but it's what he needed.
"when socialism fails, blame capitalism and demand more socialism." - A friend
"You know the difference between libs and right-wingers? Libs STFU when evidence refutes their false beliefs." - Another friend
“Don't waste your time with explanations: people only hear what they want to hear.” - Paulo Coelho
Exile
He probably needed respect, he may have needed power. Needs aren't about what somebody else SHOULD or shouldn't be doing. Unfortunately, the way he went about it was ineffective in getting his needs met. We asked him who is was and he wouldn't tell us. He asked us who we were and we told him and pointed to where we live.
Had he calmly introduced himself, told us where he lived and what he wanted it would have been far less costly to him and to us.
The guy is the landowners disabled son who is living in a fifth wheel on her property illegally. He's an alcoholic.
Senior Member
For fuck's sake.
“… the greatest detractor from high performance is fear: fear that you are not prepared, fear that you are in over your head, fear that you are not worthy, and ultimately, fear of failure. If you can eliminate that fear—not through arrogance or just wishing difficulties away, but through hard work and preparation—you will put yourself in an incredibly powerful position to take on the challenges you face" - Pete Carroll.
Exile
If you don't like the view, ignore me.
Ignored by the alt-right
The only "need" of his you could control was where your dog crapped.
"when socialism fails, blame capitalism and demand more socialism." - A friend
"You know the difference between libs and right-wingers? Libs STFU when evidence refutes their false beliefs." - Another friend
“Don't waste your time with explanations: people only hear what they want to hear.” - Paulo Coelho
Exile
First of all, it's not about "controlling" someone else's need. It's about meeting the other person empathically, and NOT seeing him as an enemy, but a human being with needs.
It's all after the fact now, and the dog has died, there is no reason for this man to hate us anymore, yet he still does.
I'm excited by and interested in NVC program that transforms anger into empathic compassion for ourselves and others.
Here is an excellent article on it.
http://www.naturalchild.org/marshall...ten_steps.html
The first step in working with anger is to recognize that the stimulus or trigger is not the CAUSE of anger. The cause of anger is the response or reaction to an external or internal trigger.
Senior Member
You are just SO FULL of shit. You exhibit signs of confusion, anger, and attention-getting.
A dog walked past me today - how nice, eh?
- Yes, WindSong, its nice to see dogs.
Did I mention he bit me?
- No way! You okay
Doctor refused to treat me
- weird
Dog also was carrying a camel and a leather-bound book of recipes
- uh....
Stop hating and name calling! I can't STAND you, you twit!
- oh my!
etc...ad nauseam.
“… the greatest detractor from high performance is fear: fear that you are not prepared, fear that you are in over your head, fear that you are not worthy, and ultimately, fear of failure. If you can eliminate that fear—not through arrogance or just wishing difficulties away, but through hard work and preparation—you will put yourself in an incredibly powerful position to take on the challenges you face" - Pete Carroll.
Exile
OK, let's see if I can figure out the needs you're trying to meet by lashing out at me with insults. Offering a diagnosis of someone is a way to disconnect with feelings and needs.
I'm going to try empathic communication with you. I will have to guess what you feel and what your needs are.
I'm guessing you're annoyed and frustrated by my posts. There may be something you think is unfair to you about my position. You may need to feel respected by me.
You don't like it when I tell stories from my own life experience. I will stop doing that. No more stories from my life.
Your head exploded
Sometimes violence is necessary Sky.
Let me tell you a story about a drug dealer in Arkansas who bought one of his customer's 15 year old step daughter for $500 worth the meth. The dude threatened to kill her if we tried to take her away from him. Violence on our part saved her life. Would you have preferred we asked "pretty please give her back?"
Exile
Violence isn't an option for me.
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