Is Love Random?

[Shadow]

Interesting article on if things in your life happen by acts of fate...or just by chance...



How did you meet your lover? Your spouse? Your date from last Friday night? Was it love at first sight, a predetermined order or something out of your control entirely?

Questions like this may keep obsessive compulsives up at night, but the true answer can be boiled down to randomness. At least according to Dr. Leonard Mlodinow.

"One of the most profound effects of randomness is how it affects who we meet," says Mlodinow, who appears at the Santa Rosa Junior College on Feb. 9. "Sometimes we tend to assume there is a cause for everything—not that there isn't a cause for everything, but the cause can be unrelated to the event."
His book The Drunkard's Walk: How Randomness Rules Our Lives is not about the stumble between downtown watering holes, as one might think, but about how our lives are affected by chance and random occurrences. These factors may play a more prominent role than we realize, he argues.

Sometimes the strongest relationships begin by chance. You lingered longer than normal for that second cup of coffee or took the elevator on a whim instead of the stairs, and in the process met someone special. If more people accepted randomness as playing a large part of shaping our lives, Mlodinow asserts, it could affect their outlook on life. "You would judge people differently," he says. "You wouldn't judge people on results. You'd have to look deeper."

http://www.bohemian.com/northbay/is-...nt?oid=2276003

[Dilloduck]

Everything is timing and chemistry.

[Shadow]

So I've heard.

[Dilloduck]

damn everyone beats me to everything.

[logroller]

damn everyone beats me to everything.

The visceral point being, you came to the conclusion randomly, on your own.

[Dilloduck]

The visceral point being, you came to the conclusion randomly, on your own.

Ya but coming up with the idea first is such a buzz. Even if I was only randomly first.

[logroller]

Ya but coming up with the idea first is such a buzz. Even if I was only randomly first.

One of my many favorite quotes is 'originality is remembering what was said, but not that it's been said before' - I don remember who said it though; maybe I just came up with that on my own.

[Dilloduck]

One of my many favorite quotes is 'originality is remembering what was said, but not that it's been said before' -or maybe I just came up with that on my own.

Problem is someone like Shadow will bop in and say---"I heard that before" just to get your goat.

[logroller]

I've a quick wit; I'd say "yeah; I've said it before."

[Dilloduck]

I've a quick wit; I'd say "yeah; I've said it before."

No need-----she knows she heard it from me.

But then there's Mom's quote. "I love waking up in the morning because it means I got some sleep last night"

[Shadow]

Problem is someone like Shadow will bop in and say---"I heard that before" just to get your goat.

You got a goat?

[Dilloduck]

You got a goat?

It's sorta my pet name for it.

[ConHog]

Interesting article on if things in your life happen by acts of fate...or just by chance...



How did you meet your lover? Your spouse? Your date from last Friday night? Was it love at first sight, a predetermined order or something out of your control entirely?

Questions like this may keep obsessive compulsives up at night, but the true answer can be boiled down to randomness. At least according to Dr. Leonard Mlodinow.

"One of the most profound effects of randomness is how it affects who we meet," says Mlodinow, who appears at the Santa Rosa Junior College on Feb. 9. "Sometimes we tend to assume there is a cause for everything—not that there isn't a cause for everything, but the cause can be unrelated to the event."
His book The Drunkard's Walk: How Randomness Rules Our Lives is not about the stumble between downtown watering holes, as one might think, but about how our lives are affected by chance and random occurrences. These factors may play a more prominent role than we realize, he argues.

Sometimes the strongest relationships begin by chance. You lingered longer than normal for that second cup of coffee or took the elevator on a whim instead of the stairs, and in the process met someone special. If more people accepted randomness as playing a large part of shaping our lives, Mlodinow asserts, it could affect their outlook on life. "You would judge people differently," he says. "You wouldn't judge people on results. You'd have to look deeper."

http://www.bohemian.com/northbay/is-...nt?oid=2276003

Love is random. Yes I believe in love at first sight. I experienced it first hand.

Met my wife at a college football game. Actually seen her across the tailgating party and told my friend that I was going to marry that girl. He laughed and said noway. A year later he was the best man in our wedding and the woman who she had told she hoped I talked to her was the maid of honor.

[Dilloduck]

Love is random. Yes I believe in love at first sight. I experienced it first hand.

Met my wife at a college football game. Actually seen her across the tailgating party and told my friend that I was going to marry that girl. He laughed and said noway. A year later he was the best man in our wedding and the woman who she had told she hoped I talked to her was the maid of honor.

Timing and chemistry strikes again.

[ConHog]

Timing and chemistry strikes again.

Yep, and fate. I almost didn't go to the game that day.