Being mean is the death knell of relationships

[tailfins]

While the OP was likely referring to male-female relationships, I also take it as it refers to relationships within this forum. While I like this forum (when G*nny is not here), there are unfortunate instances of calling one another "idiot" and the like. All positive relationships depend on some level of respect for each other.

I think of this more like a coffee shop. If there's a nice person at the next table, I will gladly enjoy some conversation. If there's a dirt bag I don't want to be around, I will ignore them or tell them to get lost.

[darin]

I think we as mothers are always reevaluating our relationships with our younguns. They, and we, are always changing and the dynamics of the relationships might need to be adjusted as needed. On the other hand, we parents are supposed to be bedrocks of reliability. I don't know.

I am a father. :-)

I don't know that men are weird. I know women who are name callers, too. One of my favorite friends on another site types words that make me blush just reading them. Everyone is different and men are certainly different from women. While women may or may not call each other "idiot", we have our own ways of cutting each other to the bone. And we never forget what the other said.

Mens' problems? We (society) have succeeded in minimalizing Fathers. We lie to women "You can do it alone! You can be Dad AND Mom!". Functionally, perhaps. However that retards the development of children and perpetuates boys never REALLY becoming men, by and large.

[Perianne]

I am a father. :-)




Mens' problems? We (society) have succeeded in minimalizing Fathers. We lie to women "You can do it alone! You can be Dad AND Mom!". Functionally, perhaps. However that retards the development of children and perpetuates boys never REALLY becoming men, by and large.

Sorry. I thought someone called you a mother-.

[darin]

Sorry. I thought someone called you a mother-.

You are probably right within a certain context

[Abbey Marie]

Being mean in a relationship -- no man can ever hope to match a woman in that effort when she puts her mind into it.
Guys, your intelligence level can not compensate for the cleverness , deceptiveness and patience a woman can muster in that realm..
Trust me, I know this for a damn fact.. -Tyr

Lol, Tyr. You know that any creature that cannot compete with physical strength, must resort to more wily talents.

[jimnyc]

While the OP was likely referring to male-female relationships, I also take it as it refers to relationships within this forum. While I like this forum (when G*nny is not here), there are unfortunate instances of calling one another "idiot" and the like. All positive relationships depend on some level of respect for each other.

I will have to think about that, Drummond. You make good points. I, being a Southern lady, do not believe in calling anyone names, but I can see how name-calling might be used as scoring points. Female-female disagreements are very complex and likely more complex than those disagreements between men. Unfortunately, I have difficulty understanding name-calling between men. Perhaps it amounts to little.

Oh no, I'm in deep doo doo!

I'm the guiltiest of all in the name calling department. But NOT so towards most but friends. I think I've called almost every single member here a bastard at one time or another. For example, DMP would say something to me about how great the Pittsburgh Steelers are - and I would reply sarcastically - "That's right you dirty bastard, now you're finally getting it!". But I would mainly and only do so with the best of friends.

You should hear me and my brothers do so. Yikes, if you met us, for the first half an hour you would think we were mortal enemies! But we love one another. It's all respectful. In fact, when the tone goes to perfect speaking and the tone lower and the bad words missing, one of us is usually angry.

You'll see the difference though. You can tell it's all in good fun. If I ever seriously offend people I stop. A few people I had to double check with and would retreat if it bothered them. And some, mostly the wonderful ladies, I don't even do so with them. I know it's probably bad enough doing it in front of those ladies, but again, all in good fun! Kinda like being at the bar - I would have fun and use play names with my buddies next to me on the right while buying him a beer - but when I turn to the left to get a lovely woman a cosmo, the tone and language changes. Does that make any sense? And I sure hope I never offended you!!

Men can play fight. Women are a 'little' different...