That is a very good and honest question.
I think @
CSM nailed an accurate answer well. Some things may very from branch to branch, but the
basics he mentioned are key to the whole concept.
Respect is earned and not just assumed. An Officer,
in front of the troops, has to maintain a sense of dignity and concern for that group of people.
The NCO's in any branch are the true leaders because of knowledge, ability, and experience. Officers are
pretty much managers, and if wise enough, let those senior NCO's run the show once marching orders
have been given.
As an E-5 and E-6 I was in charge of many things with oversight by an E-7 or E-8. We, in some cases, had
a junior officer that was designated as our 'boss'. When I was on the ship as an E-5, the Commanding Officer
had a meeting with all of the Deck Dept. Petty Officers - Boatswain's Mates and Gunner's Mates. He made it
very clear that one important purpose we had was to not only instruct and guide the junior enlisteds, but
the junior officers as well. I barked back at many junior officers that crossed over the line arrogantly.
In the Command Centers I worked in...Us and the officers largely treated each other as equals.