The part i like best
"Forgiveness is about us. Maybe holding onto the evil or harm does not combat evil - maybe it feeds it."
The part i like best
"Forgiveness is about us. Maybe holding onto the evil or harm does not combat evil - maybe it feeds it."
“… the greatest detractor from high performance is fear: fear that you are not prepared, fear that you are in over your head, fear that you are not worthy, and ultimately, fear of failure. If you can eliminate that fear—not through arrogance or just wishing difficulties away, but through hard work and preparation—you will put yourself in an incredibly powerful position to take on the challenges you face" - Pete Carroll.
1st step, stop thinking of the aholes as aholes. Easier said, . . .
Resentments hurts the holder, not the recipient. I think that is my motivator. I also try to keep in mind how often I need to be forgiven, that helps.
"The government is a child that has found their parents credit card, and spends knowing that they never have to reconcile the bill with their own money"-Shannon Churchill
God forgives, I don't.
If someone killed say my mother, I'd do everything in my power to kill that sons a bitch, and forgiveness would never enter my mind.
If someone stole something from me, forgiveness would never enter my mind.
And it doesn't bother me a bit.
"The government is a child that has found their parents credit card, and spends knowing that they never have to reconcile the bill with their own money"-Shannon Churchill
That's alright Kathy, you can quote me and reply to me directly. No need to attempt at a side swipe.
What is "self-reflective?" And are you accusing me of "doing what they accuse other's of?"
Let me be clear, I'm talking about MURDERERS, RAPISTS, THIEVES, LIARS, ETC, yes, I hate these people, and no, I have zero forgiveness for them, but because I hate them you think I'm going to BECOME ONE OF THEM, or worse yet, I AM one of them?
How utterly ridiculous.
Last edited by High_Plains_Drifter; 06-06-2018 at 06:48 PM.
"The government is a child that has found their parents credit card, and spends knowing that they never have to reconcile the bill with their own money"-Shannon Churchill
OK... then I'm sorry for assuming you were talking to me.
I'm a stand up guy, you'll always get the truth from me even it hurts or it's embarrassing, to me or anyone. I am NOT what I HATE, nor will I ever BECOME what I hate. I hate some people for a REASON, they're either CORRUPT or EVIL.
I try to be the best person I can be, but forgiving a murderer or a rapist or a thief, just as examples, isn't in the cards. Right or wrong, I'll leave that to God.
Last edited by High_Plains_Drifter; 06-06-2018 at 07:17 PM.
Some things are unforgivable. If not forgiving the person who molested me and my siblings mean I will have a dark spot on my soul, so be it.
If the freedom of speech is taken away
then dumb and silent we may be led,
like sheep to the slaughter.
George Washington (1732-1799) First President of the USA.
And won't forgive my mom for allowing the asshole to come back to live with us after he got out of jail.
Some things just should not be forgiven.
If the freedom of speech is taken away
then dumb and silent we may be led,
like sheep to the slaughter.
George Washington (1732-1799) First President of the USA.
On all you've written, I agree. I especially agree about your mom, that is horrendous.
That sort of experience, well the words are just not there, but unforgettable and life altering. At the same time, obviously you did not allow it to consume 'you.' The focus is on the perp and the enabler. I've no doubt you were hyper aware of adults, especially men around your children and now grandchildren.
I'm referring to people that do not come to that level, indeed, they are not worthy of the time and effort to keep them in mind. They may be a 'friend' that betrays in some way; a boss that is unreasonable or threatened; an ex, who one no longer must deal with, those types.
I certainly think being obsessed with someone we disagree with, no matter how strongly the disagreement is, wastes our time and in my case at least, raises my blood pressure to unmanageable levels. That is hurting me, not the object of my scorn or anger.
"The government is a child that has found their parents credit card, and spends knowing that they never have to reconcile the bill with their own money"-Shannon Churchill
"The government is a child that has found their parents credit card, and spends knowing that they never have to reconcile the bill with their own money"-Shannon Churchill
Yes, I've actually been diagnosed with PTSD and hypervigilance from the abuse. Always watching interactions between children and adults.
Also have participated on panels to educate the irrevocable harm sexual abuse can cause. Not everyone has the luxury of forgetting the abuse.
If the freedom of speech is taken away
then dumb and silent we may be led,
like sheep to the slaughter.
George Washington (1732-1799) First President of the USA.