When I joined this message board, I decided to let it all hang out and shoot from the hip. That got me designated the most hated member of the board. Whether you believe it or not I have successfully navigated some quite toxic social environments. The key is to make offending no one job one. It means being absolutely plastic and either avoiding contact and failing that, just tell people what sounds like what they want to hear in a noncommittal manner. If being absolutely offense-proof what's called for around here. I know how to do that if that's the expectation. It will be as boring as hell, though. Well?