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    My children no so jokingly refer to me as Colonel Dad because I'm strict and involved in their lives.

    We have a strict morning routine that includes what time everyone gets up, how long they get in the bathroom, what time breakfast is served. ALL clothing is examined and approved by me before anyone leaves the house. I do a daily morning check to make sure homework is done and gets turned in, and that nothing unapproved goes to school.

    We have bed times.

    My children are not allowed to go over to other people's houses unless the parents are home and I have met them.

    No guests are allowed unless either my wife or myself are home.

    We have weekly bedroom checks to make sure rooms are being kept clean

    We have chores

    We limit screen time during the week, this includes all screens.

    We have family dinner together every night. Exceptions are made , but only for legitimate reasons, otherwise you are expected to be there.

    etc etc

    I'm definitely a strict parent, what kind of parent are you? Or for some of you fogies, what kind of parent WERE you?

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    Strict.
    If the freedom of speech is taken away
    then dumb and silent we may be led,
    like sheep to the slaughter.


    George Washington (1732-1799) First President of the USA.

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    My kid hasn't left the house in 12 years. We are a little strict in chaining him in his room.

    I would say that we are strict, until we're not.

    We have the best of intentions and offer our kiddo the moon and more. Private school and everything he needs to succeed in life. And we have expectations. But we let him get away with a lot, but he's also now about to turn 19. So he's in that age group now where we simply don't know if we did well or not! LOL He's alive, graduated and is happy. Still at home and never been arrested. But hell, times have changed and kids don't go out anymore!

    Kid was supposed to be in bed at 10pm the latest when in school. Chores daily and weekly chores. All the same stuff mainly, but admittedly we were both pushovers and allowed more than our parents allowed when we were little.

    I truly believe kids NEED discipline and order in their lives, it's a MUST, even if I am no good at doing it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by jimnyc View Post
    My kid hasn't left the house in 12 years. We are a little strict in chaining him in his room.

    I would say that we are strict, until we're not.

    We have the best of intentions and offer our kiddo the moon and more. Private school and everything he needs to succeed in life. And we have expectations. But we let him get away with a lot, but he's also now about to turn 19. So he's in that age group now where we simply don't know if we did well or not! LOL He's alive, graduated and is happy. Still at home and never been arrested. But hell, times have changed and kids don't go out anymore!

    Kid was supposed to be in bed at 10pm the latest when in school. Chores daily and weekly chores. All the same stuff mainly, but admittedly we were both pushovers and allowed more than our parents allowed when we were little.

    I truly believe kids NEED discipline and order in their lives, it's a MUST, even if I am no good at doing it.

    I believe it is a must to. I think I told you about the friend of my son's who when they were 15 his dad was arrested and went to prison and his mom moved in with a boyfriend and told him that the boyfriend didn't want him around so he'd have to find somewhere else to live.

    Now with parents like that you can imagine where the son was headed in life. My wife literally went to the city park and found him sleeping there and told him to get his little butt in the car and brought him to our house. He was a D student peddling drugs at school to feed himself. But he was basically a nice kid. He'd been over to the house all the time, my kid never to his house when he did have one. Not once. Nope. Anyway, the first few months were tough, this kid was used to doing whatever the hell he wanted and didn't care about his future at all.

    They are 27 now, both in the Army, both college graduates.

    It was tough, not gonna lie, there were days when we wanted to just kick him out. But we finally got him out of high school and talking about college. Let me tell you I was more proud of him the day he graduated college than I was of my own son who I KNEW would graduate from college before he was even out of high school.

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    Strict with rules, liberal in letting them think and discuss what they wanted. Some interesting discussions, but all finished schooling and all gainfully employed.


    "The government is a child that has found their parents credit card, and spends knowing that they never have to reconcile the bill with their own money"-Shannon Churchill


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    Quote Originally Posted by Kathianne View Post
    Strict with rules, liberal in letting them think and discuss what they wanted. Some interesting discussions, but all finished schooling and all gainfully employed.

    Oh yes, we encourage thinking and open dialogue as well. It's perfectly fine to have a differing opinion, but you better be able to show that your opinion is based on fact. My intolerance for non fact based opinions isn't strictly on message boards.

    And of course, that is age dependent as well. I'm not one of those parents who believes children should be involved in adult conversations.

    Some other things we practice are. If you are a child and in a chair when an adult enters the room and there are no other chairs you move, sit on the floor if you must. My children call adults ma'am and sir. They hold doors open for women and the elderly.

    We also teach hard work. My children are fortunate in that we have money. There isn't much I couldn't afford to buy them , and they usually get things when they want them. But they also know the value of hard work. When I say we have chores. I'm not talking about cleaning your room, and making your bed. Those are expected.

    I'm talking an 800 acre farm, there is always work to be done. A couple of weeks ago we poured a concrete slab. 20' x 20' of course myself and ranch hand did the bulk of the work, but the kids helped . They hauled off empty bags of quick crete, they sprayed water into the cement mixer , etc etc. Now in some ways that actually made the job harder (the 2 year old has to be doing whatever I'm doing, no matter what, which meant I had a 2 year old helping me operate a cement mixer LOL) but in the long run I have children who are growing up knowing how to pour cement, not because they have to but because the feeling of knowing you worked hard and accomplished something like pouring a concrete slab can't be matched by anything else.

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    I was strict. Wouldn't know it by my mouthy grandkids.

    My daughter knows more about parenting than me though. So I asked "really? How come I raised a kid that is working on a doctorate and you've got 3 heathens??" She deflected
    “When bad men combine, the good must associate; else they will fall, one by one, an unpitied sacrifice in a contemptible struggle.” Edumnd Burke

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    Quote Originally Posted by Gunny View Post
    I was strict. Wouldn't know it by my mouthy grandkids.

    My daughter knows more about parenting than me though. So I asked "really? How come I raised a kid that is working on a doctorate and you've got 3 heathens??" She deflected
    What I find funny is that my kids rules are pretty much what I had for them. It’s weird to hear them saying the same exact phrases I said.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Kathianne View Post
    What I find funny is that my kids rules are pretty much what I had for them. It’s weird to hear them saying the same exact phrases I said.

    I have caught myself many times and thought "damn I sound like my dad" over the years LOL

    I figure their rules worked for me and my brother and sister pretty well.........

    And I must be doing something right, 2 out of 2 college grads so far, no unplanned pregnancies, no arrests, no drug addicts etc etc.

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    I was strict

    Dress Code - no pants buckled under your ass.
    - no hooded sweatshirts worn indoors.
    - no hats worn at the kitchen table, outside was fine.
    - no facial hair while in high school.
    Electronics - no cell phone at meals.
    - homework first, then computer or games.
    - no cellphone while driving unless an emergency.
    Manners - Yes Sir, Yes Ma'am, No Sir, No Ma'am
    - Don't be a bully or I will whip your ass.
    - Respect teachers and administrators.
    - Respect the opposite (female) gender, even if you do not like them.
    - NO DRUGS!
    Patriotism - Salute the flag if you see it pass in a parade, or when raised or lowered.
    - respect Veterans.
    Sportsmanship - Never deliver a dirty hit in football, never.
    - If you knock an opponent down, after the whistle run up and check him out.
    - If you beat another in wrestling, shake his hand and smile.
    - If he beats you, shake his hand and smile.

    Simple list. I am sure I missed a few.
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    Done. That's what kind of parent I are...
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    "The man who invented the telescope found out more about heaven than the closed eyes of prayer ever discovered." - Robert G. Ingersoll

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    Very protective. Safety first, and always.
    Pretty easygoing whenever possible.

    Our daughter picked us up after our vacation. She had cleaned the house end to end, up and down, did laundry, made us dinner, turned on all the lights so the house would look welcoming.
    I think we did Ok.

    Now, if she would just give us a grandchild...
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