Ladies' turn!
What's the very FIRST thing that attracts you to a man? You can list other stuff, too.

The very first thing that attracted me to my husband was his work ethic. Seriously. Intelligence is a big one. Kindness & consideration. Those are the top things for me.

Then, "chemistry." Like -Cp's article said, it can't be defined; it's just there, or it isn't.

Then looks. I am not very picky about that. I don't like men that are shorter or smaller than I am. It would probably take a bit more personality to get me attracted to a man who had a large physical deformity of some kind.

So, that's it. Other ladies' opinions?