No, absolutely not. If you read my first post, I explained how I view jealousy or have it in check, 100%.
What Said1 is speaking to in my opinion, is where another person has cunningly put on the full court press, to attract or pull away ones spouse from the family unit, and your spouse may be totally unaware of it...yes, maybe he or she is slightly flattered by it, but not necessarily aware of the Viper at hand, but you are aware of it thru instinct, intuition, or whatever you want to call it. I don't see that as jealousy, I see this as being aware your your surroundings and those encroaching on them.
The conversation with one's spouse might go like this:
"You realize that is is not just some cordial flattery going on here and that he or she is "hitting" on you, don't you? Just want to make sure you see it!"
hahahahaha, or something like that.....it is no biggie, no argument arises, if anything, just awareness, and the openess with eachother can lead to positive things happening!
jd