20 million sexless marriages

[Hugh Lincoln]

Honestly, would you stay with a partner who was healthy & normal, that would not engage in sex with you? And if so, why?

Divorce pretty much renders a man a financial eunuch for the rest of his life. Kids are screwed up by it. Those are two big reasons.

[gabosaurus]

Divorce pretty much renders a man a financial eunuch for the rest of his life. Kids are screwed up by it. Those are two big reasons.

If you don't want to be rendered a "financial eunuch," don't screw up your marriage. Don't insist on your wife being a stay at home mom. Don't have kids if you don't want to support them. It's your responsibility as a parent.

Marriage doesn't have a shelf life. You can't suddenly decide you are tired of your partner and trade him/her in for a new one. When you decide to get married, you should know your partner well enough to be familiar with their pros and cons, pluses and minuses.
If something happens and renders your partner unable to engage in a normal sexual relationship, that does not give you an excuse to fulfill yourself elsewhere. With our without your partner's consent. You might not have to answer to your partner, but you will eventually have to answer to God.

[Dilloduck]

If you don't want to be rendered a "financial eunuch," don't screw up your marriage. Don't insist on your wife being a stay at home mom. Don't have kids if you don't want to support them. It's your responsibility as a parent.

Marriage doesn't have a shelf life. You can't suddenly decide you are tired of your partner and trade him/her in for a new one. When you decide to get married, you should know your partner well enough to be familiar with their pros and cons, pluses and minuses.
If something happens and renders your partner unable to engage in a normal sexual relationship, that does not give you an excuse to fulfill yourself elsewhere. With our without your partner's consent. You might not have to answer to your partner, but you will eventually have to answer to God.

the old pro speaks !!!!

[Abbey Marie]

If you don't want to be rendered a "financial eunuch," don't screw up your marriage. Don't insist on your wife being a stay at home mom. Don't have kids if you don't want to support them. It's your responsibility as a parent.

Marriage doesn't have a shelf life. You can't suddenly decide you are tired of your partner and trade him/her in for a new one. When you decide to get married, you should know your partner well enough to be familiar with their pros and cons, pluses and minuses.
If something happens and renders your partner unable to engage in a normal sexual relationship, that does not give you an excuse to fulfill yourself elsewhere. With our without your partner's consent. You might not have to answer to your partner, but you will eventually have to answer to God.

All excellent points.

And we shouldn't go into marriage expecting our spouse to give our life its "meaning". It's too much to expect of another, and people will always let us down in one way or another.

[Dilloduck]

All excellent points.

And we shouldn't go into marriage expecting our spouse to give our life its "meaning". It's too much to expect of another, and people will always let us down in one way or another.

Since people some into marriage with their own ideas about what it means it might be a good idea to compare notes. You might be surprised.

[Abbey Marie]

Since people some into marriage with their own ideas about what it means it might be a good idea to compare notes. You might be surprised.

I might be surprised by what?

[Dilloduck]

I might be surprised by what?

It wasn't meant to be personal LOL sorry for the misunderstanding !!

[Abbey Marie]

It wasn't meant to be personal LOL sorry for the misunderstanding !!

No problem- it's one of those threads, I think.

So, what did you think people generally might be surprised by?

[Dilloduck]

No problem- it's one of those threads, I think.

So, what did you think people generally might be surprised by?

How many pre-conceptions people have about what marriage 'means' that are so ingrained that they only show themselves after a problem arises. The belief that after marriage one is required to fullfill his/her partners sexual needs on demand is a new one on me.

[Cheyenne]

....... after marriage one is required to fullfill his/her partners sexual needs on demand is a new one on me.

Where in this article or any of the responses in this thread has this statement been made or implied?

[Dilloduck]

Where in this article or any of the responses in this thread has this statement been made or implied?

I didn't state it was made in this thread-----this isn't the only thread about marriage that has ever existed here.

[Abbey Marie]

How many pre-conceptions people have about what marriage 'means' that are so ingrained that they only show themselves after a problem arises. The belief that after marriage one is required to fullfill his/her partners sexual needs on demand is a new one on me.

One thing is certain: women really need to stay away from those romance novels.

[Dilloduck]

One thing is certain: women really need to stay away from those romance novels.

There are a heck of a lot of stories men gotta get outta there brains too.
It ain't always a picnic.

[Cheyenne]

I ----this isn't the only thread about marriage that has ever existed here.

I think you hit the wrong button & missed the PMS thread.

[Dilloduck]

I think you hit the wrong button & missed the PMS thread.

LMAO----sure wasn't me who started a thread about people not having sex