Working with Anger

[jimnyc]

Violence isn't an option for me.

But it is for some, and sometimes a necessity. You have your way, others have theirs. Live and let live. But it seems at times like you think everyone should live in your little world and do as you say.

[darin]

OK, let's see if I can figure out the needs you're trying to meet by lashing out at me with insults. Offering a diagnosis of someone is a way to disconnect with feelings and needs.

I'm going to try empathic communication with you. I will have to guess what you feel and what your needs are.

I'm guessing you're annoyed and frustrated by my posts. There may be something you think is unfair to you about my position. You may need to feel respected by me.

You don't like it when I tell stories from my own life experience. I will stop doing that. No more stories from my life.

I think you are making shit up. I think you are disingenuous. I don't want to be respected by you. I want you to respect the board enough to tell the truth, provide consistent good-faith posting, and not play the 'victim' card when your arguments are overwhelmed by facts, opinion, or technique.

[cadet]

Violence isn't an option for me.

Say screw you, or have your dog crap in your own yard.

[jimnyc]

I think you are making shit up. I think you are disingenuous.

Really? WS make stuff up in her posts? I never would have thunk it!

[Wind Song]

But it is for some, and sometimes a necessity. You have your way, others have theirs. Live and let live. But it seems at times like you think everyone should live in your little world and do as you say.

No, that is your interpretation. I am strong about my positiions and you think that means I think EVERYONE should think as I do.

"Live and let live" is all fine and dandy until you have some drunken idiot shooting up the neighborhood.

[ConHog]

I think you are making shit up. I think you are disingenuous. I don't want to be respected by you. I want you to respect the board enough to tell the truth, provide consistent good-faith posting, and not play the 'victim' card when your arguments are overwhelmed by facts, opinion, or technique.

Stop derailing the thread Nigguh........




I'm just being an ass Darin, if that offended you feel free to delete it no hard feelings on my part.

[ConHog]

Violence isn't an option for me.

So you would have told that girl's mom "sorry nothing we can do, she's his bitch now?"

[jimnyc]

No, that is your interpretation. I am strong about my positiions and you think that means I think EVERYONE should think as I do.

"Live and let live" is all fine and dandy until you have some drunken idiot shooting up the neighborhood.

So what would you propose as a solution to a neighborhood that has it's residents armed to the teeth with legal guns and legal gun owners? Take away alcohol? What's YOUR answer to your own fear?

[ConHog]

So what would you propose as a solution to a neighborhood that has it's residents armed to the teeth with legal guns and legal gun owners? Take away alcohol? What's YOUR answer to your own fear?

I thought WIndy was a liberal? It appears that she's some ultra right wing NUT who would just as soon lock everyone up in solitary confinement to make sure that they don't in the future commit any crimes.

[Wind Song]

I think you are making shit up. I think you are disingenuous. I don't want to be respected by you. I want you to respect the board enough to tell the truth, provide consistent good-faith posting, and not play the 'victim' card when your arguments are overwhelmed by facts, opinion, or technique.

First of all, I told you I was guessing at your feelings and needs. I'm trying to respond to your insults in a non-violent way. By helping you see that I am not the cause of your anger.

[jimnyc]

So what would you propose as a solution to a neighborhood that has it's residents armed to the teeth with legal guns and legal gun owners? Take away alcohol? What's YOUR answer to your own fear?

Bump, for WS...

[Wind Song]

People applying for gun licenses should be screened out if they have mental illness or substance abuse histories.

[jimnyc]

People applying for gun licenses should be screened out if they have mental illness or substance abuse histories.

Answer my specific question posed above, please.

[Wind Song]

So what would you propose as a solution to a neighborhood that has it's residents armed to the teeth with legal guns and legal gun owners? Take away alcohol? What's YOUR answer to your own fear?

My answer to my own fear? Learn to communicate non-violently with angry people. Face my fears, but be kind and admit when I'm triggered. Turn toward that place that is afraid and keep it company.

Take care of my own needs.

I am committed to non-violence.

[jimnyc]

My answer to my own fear? Learn to communicate non-violently with angry people. Face my fears, but be kind and admit when I'm triggered. Turn toward that place that is afraid and keep it company.

Take care of my own needs.

I am committed to non-violence.

So you say Live and let live" is all fine and dandy until you have some drunken idiot shooting up the neighborhood.

But you think a simple "check" of someone's past would stop this? They already have holds on weapons and checks when someone tries to purchase a gun.