Six steps for not using "gay" as a derogatory term.
Recognise that using the word gay as a derogatory term is considered homophobic. Unless you already have, realise that using the word
gay to insult something or someone implies that you think there is something wrong with being homosexual. This makes you look hateful.
Understand the word that you want to avoid using.
Gay is just a term to describe a person's sexuality. Gay people have needs,
feelings and
goals just like you do. The only difference between a
gay person and a straight person is who they are attracted to. Understand that using the word gay in a derogatory manner is extremely insulting.
Register every time you use gay in a derogatory manner. Every time you use
(or try to use) the word
gay to refer to someone or something that you don't like or think is stupid, wrong or bad in any way, take a mental note. Examine why you want to use it, and then every time you want to, try to use a different word that is not offensive to
gay people or
any other person. Use words like
stupid,
wick,
annoying or
wrong instead.
Come up with alternative phrases or words to use. When using replacements, remember that they apply not only to spoken language, but also to writing and most importantly,
thinking. If you constantly challenge yourself to use alternatives, over time you will become more used to them and may even forget that you
could have used to use the word
gay - inappropriately. used to use the word
gay - inappropriately.
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