Originally Posted by
aboutime
Calling it a 50 - 50 anything is nothing but another excuse to avoid being personally responsible to someone else.
If you must set up a schedule that you THINK makes marriage FAIR and EQUAL. You will lose all respect for one-another. Right from the get-go.
The biggest mistake of marriage is, and always has been when One, or Both partners declare, instruct, or make deals with the other for personal responsibilities that should be shared without TELLING, or ASKING.
It starts with Mutual Respect, Caring, Dignity, Honor, and Unselfishness...unlike children who must argue over WHO is responsible to do what?
Common sense, dignity, and Love in equal shares simply tell One, or the Other member of the marriage to JUST DO IT, without having to bargain, complain, deal, or argue.
HUMAN DECENCY IS THE BOTTOM LINE.
Without Mutual Respect, and Decency....you have a FAILED partnership...better known as Marriage.
I agree with that. My wife and I just started doing our house work in accordance to our abilities. She does more inside than I but I do 99.9% of the yard work, so balance came in as well as it could or should naturally. Married nine years with not a single major argument and the few small disagreements we've had were all about how much financial aid to send to her family in the Philippines.
Mutual respect is the key, we both have our strengths and our weaknesses and we try our best to bring out the best in each other. Not perfect but pretty damn good.
And the side benefit is neither one of us uses the old standard sex-withholding as a weapon as is so often done!!--
Treat a really good woman as she should be treated and life is great, trust me on that.. -Tyr
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