This might get me stabbed in the dark hours of the
morning...
If you look at the very bottom of every page in every
thread, it shows who has read the thread thus far.
Invisible rules apply, so you won't see those who are
nvisible. Staff members obviously can see all visitors. Anyway, Log doesn't have his account set to invisible anyway. The point I'm making - he hasn't even read this thread. It's possible he has read it as a guest, but logged in he has not entered this thread. A lot of people follow the board by the recent posts at the top of the board, or from the new posts option, and sometimes from the activity stream option - but the cage won't show up in any of them. The only way to see now posts in here is to manually check.
First let me say one thing. If Logroller went out of
his way to make a direct statement towards Tyr's mother,
there is no way to defend that. The reason that this
didn't reach the level of a banning? I honestly don't
know the intent, and he has no history of anything even remotely close to that. I was hoping he would follow up after I made my post in that thread. It could have been a lame joke, but even lame jokes about family are lame and unacceptable. A lot of people use 'old lady' to refer to another persons wife. If that were the case, still unacceptable whether joking or not, but just to a different person. Was it said in a 'jest' manner, with no direction, just a "get your slippers from your momma" with no thought of the person used within the joke, but directed at the member here? Possible of course. But like I said earlier, we have to be careful when joking, as sometimes we may mean something one way, and it comes off another. When 2 people don't like one another, obviously some 'jokes' come off differently and take a more serious meaning. I can't find any ways to defend his joke. It was wrong, no matter
the seriousness level.
I was hoping he would explain
and give an apology on the momma part. No matter how it was meant, it hurt the person receiving it, and that alone makes the apology a "right thing to do" moment. I don't want anyone to mistake that I am in any way supporting him in this back and forth.
I just hate to see someone I was friends with for so
long feel he has to leave the board. There are always
ways to fix issues without having to leave. Address
the issue with Tyr, then one can use the ignore feature.
I know a handful of you will disagree with me on this
issue, but that's cool with me, I fully understand.
I have friends "in the real world" where other friends
don't get it. But their issues are between them, and
mine are mine.
I disagree with Log and what transpired in that thread.