Update on Gaffer

[Kathianne]

Like many above, saw the same. My mom was a long term patient, she'd never been over 110 lbs, by the time she died she was under 70 lbs. The last 15 lbs over the last year, after a 10 year illness. She just couldn't.

Now my dad always had a vorocious appetite, at one point a 44" waist! He was diagnosed with cancer in January, died in August of the same year. In January he probably weighed 180. By August he was down to 160. In July he joked he was heading to his enlistment weight of 130. He was 6'2". He never stopped eating, the thing is that a bite or two of a sandwich or a bit of dinner, tired him out.

My feelings are that all the caregivers can do is try to provide what the loved one really loves, that may change from 'their norm.' My mom loved shrimp, lobster, and chips-yes! Chips! Over the years of her illness, these would tempt her to eat. The last couple years? Not so much. Then it was shakes, sodas, soups, stews. Even them, the soups and stews were a few spoonfulls. The shakes and sodas? Mostly would be gone. Needless to say, nutrition was ignored for calories.

[stephanie]

Trinity,


I just saw this thread and didn't know the "gaffer" was ill.

Please let him know I am thinking of him.

[darin]

My most-sincere wishes and prayers for you, your family and friends - and for Gaffer.

[jimnyc]

Another speechless moment. But I think such moments lend to the character of the person we are discussing. I find it also a bit remarkable what kind of impression one person can have on folks - folks he/we have never met face to face. I'm sure Gaffer has made a few enemies over the years. No doubt he was never shy about speaking his feelings and knowledge. And I think it was that honesty and knowledge that makes him so likeable as well. Just what I refer to as a "nice guy". I think Gaffer has earned an immense amount of respect from fellow members in addition to friendship. I know he has earned both from me.

Hang in there, Trinity. Tell Dad we are all asking for him and that he's in our thoughts.

[Jeff]

Trinity this is very hard times I know, I have been through it with a few loved ones, my Mom basically quit eating as did my Grandmother, I think it gets to the point they know when they eat they are going to get sick so why bother, they know the outcome, sometimes I wondered if that wasn't there way of saying OK I am ready. But either way Hun understand my prayers are there for Gaffer and the family, stay strong and know God has this.

[Trinity]

Well I was going to do weekly updates....but things have went from... he had me laughing yesterday morning..... to he is completely lethargic.

They have called in 24/7 care and we are down to hours, maybe days.

This shit sucks I am mentally and emotionally wore out.



I expect my next post will be of his passing. :-(

[tailfins]

Well I was going to do weekly updates....but things have went from... he had me laughing yesterday morning..... to he is completely lethargic.

They have called in 24/7 care and we are down to hours, maybe days.

This shit sucks I am mentally and emotionally wore out.



I expect my next post will be of his passing. :-(

The psychological healing will come sooner and faster than you expect.

[aboutime]

Well I was going to do weekly updates....but things have went from... he had me laughing yesterday morning..... to he is completely lethargic.

They have called in 24/7 care and we are down to hours, maybe days.

This shit sucks I am mentally and emotionally wore out.



I expect my next post will be of his passing. :-(

Our prayers are with you and Gaffer. Let the Lord take care of the details none of us can control.

God Bless.

[Kathianne]

Well I was going to do weekly updates....but things have went from... he had me laughing yesterday morning..... to he is completely lethargic.

They have called in 24/7 care and we are down to hours, maybe days.

This shit sucks I am mentally and emotionally wore out.



I expect my next post will be of his passing. :-(

Prayers continue. Peace for all.

[Jeff]

Trinity my heart and Love are with y'all tonight, I pray God's hand is there to guide things and to help with what ever comes up, my prayers and heart are with you.

[Tyr-Ziu Saxnot]

Well I was going to do weekly updates....but things have went from... he had me laughing yesterday morning..... to he is completely lethargic.

They have called in 24/7 care and we are down to hours, maybe days.

This shit sucks I am mentally and emotionally wore out.



I expect my next post will be of his passing. :-(

Such sad words to read. Yet if he is ready to go to be relieved of the pain then that may be a decision he made and why the sudden change for the worse.
Prayers for Gaffer and all his family my friend.
I shall miss him greatly as he surely seemed like an older brother to me when we exchanged pms here.
Although we never met face to face I feel as if he is a great friend and know for sure he is an honorable man that held firm to the right set of principles in life..-Tyr