I really cannot stand how men face systemic sexism in our legal system and not enough people care. It's truly the only reason I think i would ever kneel during an anthem.
Not-retiring IS a method to keep money-grubbers from getting their mitts on more money. But 'ability to pay it' is not true - Courts impute income on men. The court can say "That man SHOULD be able to earn $100k/year (for example), thus his "support" payment is based on that, not his current income of $50k (for example)."
Nevermind when a man works as the sole-source of income for 20 years supporting his no-income-generating spouse...she gets the benefit of free room and board for two decades then demands more after she decides to leave him for the pool boy, etc.
“… the greatest detractor from high performance is fear: fear that you are not prepared, fear that you are in over your head, fear that you are not worthy, and ultimately, fear of failure. If you can eliminate that fear—not through arrogance or just wishing difficulties away, but through hard work and preparation—you will put yourself in an incredibly powerful position to take on the challenges you face" - Pete Carroll.