Any Gay or Lesbian Relatives?

[DragonStryk72]

My dad is hairdresser when he's not a dope dealer, the gays in the salon were aways good to me. I guess that was hard for your dad Dragon but at least he's sober and happy now.

Well, the situations were different I think. My nana was a doom and gloom Irish Catholic, meaning that she essentially believed everyone was going to hell until proven otherwise. My dad also made a bigger deal out of it than it was, spending decade into making a monster out of nothing. I remember when he finally told me, just after I got out of the Navy, he sat me down for a talk. If you knew my dad, then you would know I was already alarmed, because no good comes of him saying he wants to talk, and he starts in with this whole big lead up to the reveal, which alarms me even further, cause I start thinking he's gonna tell me he has terminal cancer or something.

Whatever reaction he thought I was going to give, I doubt it was, "Ohthankgod" (yes, said so fast it was all one word.). I mean, I had gay friends, male and female, and my fiancee at the time was bi, it wasn't as if I was going to freak out. See, my dad knows that for someone reason, I seem to magnetically attract broken or outcast people, so the chance that I'm going to freak out over this was low.

[chloe]

Well, the situations were different I think. My nana was a doom and gloom Irish Catholic, meaning that she essentially believed everyone was going to hell until proven otherwise. My dad also made a bigger deal out of it than it was, spending decade into making a monster out of nothing. I remember when he finally told me, just after I got out of the Navy, he sat me down for a talk. If you knew my dad, then you would know I was already alarmed, because no good comes of him saying he wants to talk, and he starts in with this whole big lead up to the reveal, which alarms me even further, cause I start thinking he's gonna tell me he has terminal cancer or something.

Whatever reaction he thought I was going to give, I doubt it was, "Ohthankgod" (yes, said so fast it was all one word.). I mean, I had gay friends, male and female, and my fiancee at the time was bi, it wasn't as if I was going to freak out. See, my dad knows that for someone reason, I seem to magnetically attract broken or outcast people, so the chance that I'm going to freak out over this was low.

Thats cool Dragon. yeah my mom and dad divorced when I was 5 and each were in there own religious cults so we didnt have that kind of mainstream religious theme to deal with. Plus for as long as I can remember my dad dealt dope and I was always high even as a little kid.

Thanks to my dad I guess I grew up exposed to alot of things from him. He is more like a guy who will have sex with anyone male or female, I guess he's a whore. Whereas you dads more responsible man and just has a sexual preference. It's nice that you were so accepting.

[DragonStryk72]

Thats cool Dragon. yeah my mom and dad divorced when I was 5 and each were in there own religious cults so we didnt have that kind of mainstream religious theme to deal with. Plus for as long as I can remember my dad dealt dope and I was always high even as a little kid.

Thanks to my dad I guess I grew up exposed to alot of things from him. He is more like a guy who will have sex with anyone male or female, I guess he's a whore. Whereas you dads more responsible man and just has a sexual preference. It's nice that you were so accepting.

Well, my dad is still Catholic, actually. He never really lost his faith in anything other than himself. There was no reason not to be accepting, it's a preference, on he fought his whole life against, and that's just the way that God made him. He didn't change his voice when he came out, nothing. He's still the same former Marine he used to be (He was getting drafted into the Army in Vietnam, but decided he wanted a choice, so tore up his draft notice and enlisted).

I always sort of thought that people made too much out of Christianity, myself. Jesus always seemed to be talking about a more quiet, individual faith based on open acceptance and forgiveness of others. For me, I went through the Bible, and I weighed everything against the messages that Jesus gave, and if something didn't seem to balance with that message, I dropped it, because Christ came to change the way we were doing things, obviously because we had become out of balance with the True Word of God. Oddly, I think they had it about right in Dogma when Salma Hayek's character said, "It doesn't matter what you have faith in... just that you have it."

My Dad actually tested my faith, going part by part over the various beliefs that came from the doom and gloom crowd, about hell and everything. I say the same now as I did then, "The God I believe in wouldn't do that". At the time, he was incredibly shocked by it, and I did not understand why, because it seemed to be a simple, straight-forward answer, but that was just before my dad came to his decision to admit the truth to himself and my mother. I found out later, at his 30-year anniversary in AA (my parents divorced just after I graduated High School, much to the relief of us all) that what I had said back then was part of the reason that he came out during that retreat.

[chloe]

Well, my dad is still Catholic, actually. He never really lost his faith in anything other than himself. There was no reason not to be accepting, it's a preference, on he fought his whole life against, and that's just the way that God made him. He didn't change his voice when he came out, nothing. He's still the same former Marine he used to be (He was getting drafted into the Army in Vietnam, but decided he wanted a choice, so tore up his draft notice and enlisted).

I always sort of thought that people made too much out of Christianity, myself. Jesus always seemed to be talking about a more quiet, individual faith based on open acceptance and forgiveness of others. For me, I went through the Bible, and I weighed everything against the messages that Jesus gave, and if something didn't seem to balance with that message, I dropped it, because Christ came to change the way we were doing things, obviously because we had become out of balance with the True Word of God. Oddly, I think they had it about right in Dogma when Salma Hayek's character said, "It doesn't matter what you have faith in... just that you have it."

My Dad actually tested my faith, going part by part over the various beliefs that came from the doom and gloom crowd, about hell and everything. I say the same now as I did then, "The God I believe in wouldn't do that". At the time, he was incredibly shocked by it, and I did not understand why, because it seemed to be a simple, straight-forward answer, but that was just before my dad came to his decision to admit the truth to himself and my mother. I found out later, at his 30-year anniversary in AA (my parents divorced just after I graduated High School, much to the relief of us all) that what I had said back then was part of the reason that he came out during that retreat.

Pretty cool dragon, I don't know much about catholics, I think I once went to a episcapalian church which is an offshoot of catholic, but I was drunk and only remember people putting round chips in there mouth. I think Catholics are probably pretty strict, at least thats what I've heard. So its amazing your dad kept his faith. You seem like a really awesome person. You dad got lucky having a son like you.

[DragonStryk72]

Pretty cool dragon, I don't know much about catholics, I think I once went to a episcapalian church which is an offshoot of catholic, but I was drunk and only remember people putting round chips in there mouth. I think Catholics are probably pretty strict, at least thats what I've heard. So its amazing your dad kept his faith. You seem like a really awesome person. You dad got lucky having a son like you.

thanks, but Luck has little to do with it, honestly. I am who my parents raised, they always pushed me to answer the questions I had, and if I couldn't get an answer from a person, then I should look it up, and form my own answers. Catholics can get strict at times, but in general, it's a matter of degrees and finding the right church. Nowadays, we seem to be getting ourselves calmed down noticeably, which just makes everything better, IMO.

The round chips was the bread that they use during communion to symbolize the body of christ, and the wine is to symbolize his blood. It goes back to the Last Supper, when Christ offered unleavened bread and wine as his body and blood that he was sacrificing for others.

[chloe]

thanks, but Luck has little to do with it, honestly. I am who my parents raised, they always pushed me to answer the questions I had, and if I couldn't get an answer from a person, then I should look it up, and form my own answers. Catholics can get strict at times, but in general, it's a matter of degrees and finding the right church. Nowadays, we seem to be getting ourselves calmed down noticeably, which just makes everything better, IMO.

The round chips was the bread that they use during communion to symbolize the body of christ, and the wine is to symbolize his blood. It goes back to the Last Supper, when Christ offered unleavened bread and wine as his body and blood that he was sacrificing for others.

Yeah alot of churches do that I guess. I remember thinking it was weird. LOL. Anyway I'm glad to hear your dads doing good. My cousin has not accepted his son being gay, my cousin is kinda macho type and he just doesn't accept it.

[HogTrash]

Pretty cool dragon, I don't know much about catholics, I think I once went to a episcapalian church which is an offshoot of catholic, but I was drunk and only remember people putting round chips in there mouth. I think Catholics are probably pretty strict, at least thats what I've heard. So its amazing your dad kept his faith. You seem like a really awesome person. You dad got lucky having a son like you.

It always amazed me that catholic priests were permited to drink alchohol and smoke cigerettes, but not have sex.

Do you suppose that's why so many are gay and pedophiles?

[DragonStryk72]

It always amazed me that catholic priests were permited to drink alchohol and smoke cigerettes, but not have sex.

Do you suppose that's why so many are gay and pedophiles?

Actually, some of the reason is that people who feel a deep shame think that becoming a priest would be a "catch all" solution, allowing them to give their lives over in service to God, while "taking" sex off the table. Unfortunately, they do nothing to actually treat the problem within themselves, and it will eventually catch you, same as it did my dad.

He never entered the priesthood, but he threw himself into marriage as a cover. He avoided the central core issue of his life for more than two decades, the core thing that had led him in the direction of alcoholism. You cannot overcome issues that you refuse to acknowledge and deal with.

Now, in Mormonism, the priests are allowed to marry, have kids, and obviously, have sex, but cannot have alcohol, cigarettes or mind-altering drugs of any kind (caffeine is included in this), as the mormon belief holds that the body is a creation of God, and therefore sacred, so to do these things that are directly harmful to the body is a sin against God. I think they take it too far, but not really the point (They'll get my Sweet Tea when they pry it from my cold dead hands.).

I actually never really understood the concept of celibacy for God. I mean, one of his few direct statements in the Bible is "Go Forth and Multiply". I know the history of it is attached to this belief that having the kind of love and attention required for a family distracts from a "perfect" (no such thing) devotion to god, but I think it got blown horribly out of proportion. Life itself is a distraction from worshipping God.

[chloe]

Actually, some of the reason is that people who feel a deep shame think that becoming a priest would be a "catch all" solution, allowing them to give their lives over in service to God, while "taking" sex off the table. Unfortunately, they do nothing to actually treat the problem within themselves, and it will eventually catch you, same as it did my dad.

He never entered the priesthood, but he threw himself into marriage as a cover. He avoided the central core issue of his life for more than two decades, the core thing that had led him in the direction of alcoholism. You cannot overcome issues that you refuse to acknowledge and deal with.

Now, in Mormonism, the priests are allowed to marry, have kids, and obviously, have sex, but cannot have alcohol, cigarettes or mind-altering drugs of any kind (caffeine is included in this), as the mormon belief holds that the body is a creation of God, and therefore sacred, so to do these things that are directly harmful to the body is a sin against God. I think they take it too far, but not really the point (They'll get my Sweet Tea when they pry it from my cold dead hands.).

I actually never really understood the concept of celibacy for God. I mean, one of his few direct statements in the Bible is "Go Forth and Multiply". I know the history of it is attached to this belief that having the kind of love and attention required for a family distracts from a "perfect" (no such thing) devotion to god, but I think it got blown horribly out of proportion. Life itself is a distraction from worshipping God.

I was married to a mormon, but not raised in it. The religion my dad had was started by a military guy in the 1950's, its not well known. My moms religion was started by a woman and neither is mainstream. I attended the mormon church when I was married but never joined. Mormons are really against gay people.

[PostmodernProphet]

P I think I once went to a episcapalian church which is an offshoot of catholic, but I was drunk and only remember people putting round chips in there mouth.

lol, I bet you left an impression.....

[chloe]

nobody in the family, though I had a gay couple as business partners for about six years.....they bought a half interest in a business I had and then after a while, bought the other half....

by the way, does your new avatar indicate you are bi-pachyderm?

lol, I bet you left an impression.....

I am straight. I don't remember because that was a long time ago, I think I lived in Roswell at the time, I was only a teenager back then. But my husband was on a bowling league and some lady got me drunk we stayed up all night drinking at her house after bowling and she took me to her church in the morning. I think everyone was nice at the church.

[Binky]

Well, as far as I know, there are none. That's not to say there isn't, only that I don't know about any....

However, my son-in-law has a sister that came out as lesbian a few years ago and he was fit to be tied. He has ranted at her and the rest of his sibs etc. about it. He's a very outspoken fellow....

Anyway, my hubs and I have had to listen to him ranting about it and at one point, even tho' I do not condone her lifestyle, told him that regardless of her sexuality, she is still his sister and he should be respectful of her just for that reason alone.

I believe, that with the passing of time, their relationship has gotten better and he isn't so apt to pound that topic into the ground as he has so aptly done in the past.... For which I am thankful.....