situation dictates.
For the record, I'd rather people think of me as un-caring and un-giving, but the opposite be true, rather than vice-versa...or even for people to KNOW if I'm giving or caring. I prefer to stay under the radar.
But - to toot my own horn (no gay jokes, please) - last night I dreamt I owned a small jet. I let -Cp pilot and he flew us from Puyallup WA to Vantage WA to get blackberry milkshakes from that little place there off the freeway. I said to him in my dream "You fly, I buy."
“… the greatest detractor from high performance is fear: fear that you are not prepared, fear that you are in over your head, fear that you are not worthy, and ultimately, fear of failure. If you can eliminate that fear—not through arrogance or just wishing difficulties away, but through hard work and preparation—you will put yourself in an incredibly powerful position to take on the challenges you face" - Pete Carroll.